Adolescents often complain, “My parents never listen to me!”
And when they truly believe this, kids stop talking to their parents. “Why bother?” they think.
To really listen to your teen, avoid these common traps.
Don’t be a:
- Mind reader. Instead of listening, you’re wondering, “What is my teen really thinking or feeling?”
- Rehearser. You’re focused only on what you’re going to say next.
- Filterer. You hear only what you want to hear.
- Dreamer. You often drift off. Then find yourself saying, “What did you say? Could you repeat that?”
- Identifier. You’re so busy relating everything your teen says to your own experience, you miss much of what’s said.
- Comparer. You’re so focused on assessing your teen, you miss the message.
- Derailer. You’re too quick to change the subject. So your teen thinks you’re not interested in what he wants to talk about.
- Discounter. You hear what’s said, but you belittle it. You might say, “Oh, that’s not so bad.”
- Placater. You agree with what your teen says just to be nice or avoid conflict. This isn’t real communication.
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Prefería la versión precedente He utilizado esta aplicación a lo
largo de mucho tiempo. Me gusta mucho la facilidad para aplicar filtros.